An ‘Emotion Vampire’ is a person who you care about but they are almost impossible to please.
No matter what you do, no matter how much you give, no matter what sacrifices you make, no matter how much you cooperate… They always make you believe you are NOT good enough.
Interactions with them leave you emotionally drained and abused.
On their best day, they might throw a few crumbs at you. On their worst day, they will scream and belittle you and claim they fed you a feast.
Funnily, you find yourself making excuses for them…
– She was in a bad mood today, that’s why…
– He had a difficult childhood, that’s why….
– One day, they will understand…
– He is still a child…
– He said sorry na! Let’s give him another chance…
– She does not mean what she said…
If you find you have an emotion vampire in your life, here is what we suggest you do.
1. Make a list of positive and negative things that you get from the relationship.
2. Does the negative outstrip the positive? If that is the truth, it is time to evaluate the relationship.
3. You need not give up on that person completely. However, you must take a few steps away and look at it fresh.
4. Find sources of bustling joy and sources of dynamic energy in your life.
This way, you will create some necessary space between you and your emotional vampires. This will do you a world of good.
Choose happiness, not helplessness.
Choose emotion boosters, not emotion vampires.