Dearest Friends,

 

 

Nobody — including ME — likes to feel judged.

 

 

The number one strategy I have is to listen practicing “non-judgmental validation”.

 

 

I seek thoughts and opinions from people without judging them. People DISLIKE being judged in any opinion they have or in any action they take.

 

 

It doesn’t mean I agree with everyone and have no ‘locus standii’.

 

 

So what do I do when people start spouting crazy opinions and have completely misunderstood a scenario?

 

 

As soon as I hear something that I don’t necessarily agree with, instead of judging, my first reaction is, “Oh, that’s interesting! I never thought about it that way. I ask them to help me understand, how did they come up with that?”

 

 

Now, I am not judging. I am showing a willingness to understand. I am practicing EMPATHY’. More importantly, I am allowing people to calmly continue talking about their favorite subject: their beliefs.

 

 

Studies show people get more pleasure from talking about their beliefs than they get from good food or more money. Isn’t that an interesting thought !!!

 

 

How do YOU handle a difference of opinion? Do you have an approach that works out well? Would you mind sharing it with me?

 

 

With love, prayers and exceptional wishes,

 

 

naren

 

 

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