Dearest Darling Friends,

 

A very good friend of ours, Dr Suvidya, asked, “Whom to help? Should we help poor and the needy? Or should we help the good to become better?”

 

Very interesting dilemma indeed. A free flowing discussion followed. Various opinions were expressed. Passionate appeals and arguments were put forward.

 

It was indeed interesting to observe the sheer variety of thinking processes on display.

 

The group was on the verge of leaving Dr Suvidya’s clinic when the doctor had dropped this fantastic question.

 

For quite a long time no one left. Minutes flew as all participants were standing and making their points.

 

A few were standing with helmets in their hands.

 

A few had the car keys already out of the pockets.

 

One person had dialed a number but disconnected it as the question was so relevant.

 

One friend went till the door but came back to explain his point emphatically.

 

It was an interesting spectacle.

 

It was amazing to see how many opinions can be there for a single topic.

 

Each friend believed they were right. Ooops. Not only right but absolutely right!

 

Two distinct points of view emerged.

 

One group believed it is the poor and the needy who needed help.

 

They believed the well off are already having a good life and are fortunate.

 

The poor and the needy need help.

 

If we belong to the fortunate category, it is our moral duty to help the unfortunate, that is, the poor and the needy.

 

Since the good are already well off, let us leave them to take care of themselves and let us focus on lifting the poor and the needy.

 

Another group of friends believed, the poor and the needy know they will be helped. They become dependent on help.

 

They are not looking at putting the required efforts. They are not willing to assume responsibility for their own life.

 

In fact many are poor and needy inspite of so much help available to them.

 

They have been helped so many times and they seem to come back seeking help with no remorse at all.

 

They have no interest in lifting themselves. Its frustrating to see help going waste.

 

Both sides had data to back up their claims. Both were vociferous. Both were confident about their points.

 

Both were attempting to drown the others contentions by raising their voices, by putting more passion in their words, by giving personal examples.

 

The meeting concluded when a friend Gyan reminded all of them it was a Sunday and they all must be having family commitments.

 

He ended the meeting by saying, “I would like to help wherever my help can create a positive impact!”

 

My darling readers. I would love to know your to thoughts on the following two question.

 

1. How do you decide when to help, whom to help and how much to help?

 

2. If you have been helped by people, why do you think they helped you?

 

Thanks for taking time out to read and to respond. Means a lot to me.