A few days ago I celebrated my 55th Birthday. Sitting in the balcony of my house, mesmerised by the falling rain drops, listening to its pitter patter as it meets the thirsty earth, my birthday made me contemplate on the great life I have had.

 

The way our earth is dependant on rains for it to be worthwhile and productive, I realised a few ‘Miracle Anchors’ have helped me to be worthwhile and productive.

 

They have helped me in…

1. Taking critical decisions at the right time
2. Navigating turbulent waters of slips and falls
3. Believing in abundance even when I had nothing!
4. Being emotionally resilient when everything is chaotic
5. Building Fevicol like relationships that stand the test of time

 

Here is a list of my miracle anchors.

 

1. Never play the victim.

Learned helplessness is a trap.
Life will test you. It tests everyone. So you are not special.
People have faced worse and emerged gloriously.

 

2. Become mentally unbreakable.

Come what may, remain confident about the future.
Be like James Bond and Jason Bourne who are just unbreakable.
If a Rs 1000/- wala melamine crockery set can be unbreakable, why can’t you?
The seed can never be buried to death. It is buried for its destiny (a mighty tree) to become a reality.

 

3. Never stress the past.

Let go of all the negatives of the past.
Past is only be a reference point not the judgement about your future.
A person overthinks about the past when he does not believe in his own future.

 

4. No one owes you anything.

If you are motivating others, it is because someone motivated you first.
If you are helping others, it is because enough people helped you first.
If you are a strength to others, it is because enough people have been a strength to you first.
We give but a little of what we have received. If we have received 100, we have given back 10.
So shut up and give more. You have a long way to go in giving.

 

5. Do not worry about what people think.

Never depend on others approval.
Everyone need not like you.
Everyone does not matter.
Have fun.

 

6. Accept your mistakes

Mistakes don’t define you. They refine you. If you made the wrong turn, turn around.
Tell me about one person in this world who has never failed. Just one. Found one? No? See !
Accepting your mistakes mean you care.
Ahah. Not accepting your mistake is another mistake.

 

7. Do not get overwhelmed by things you cannot control. Always ask…

– What is in my control?
– What are the 2-3 progressive actions you can take?
– What are the most important things right now?
– When should you re-evaluate the situation?
– Most importantly, what can you do right now to relax?

 

8. Do not shy away from responsibilities.

Walking TOWARDS responsibilities is the fastest path to progress.
The price of greatness is responsibility.
Responsibility is spelled as – No Blame No Complains No Excuses.

 

9. Be relentlessly resourceful.

Some people find a way no matter how ‘impossible’ it seems.
They have the conviction that there is always a solution.
This is the person you are.

 

10. Never think BAD for anyone

Irrespective of what people have done to you, do not think bad about them.
Having bad thoughts for anyone is like holding a piece of burning charcoal and throwing towards them.
Plus, you will lose vitality and you will not be able to enjoy the good things you have.

 

11. Practice Problem-Solving.

The bigger the problem, the bigger is the opportunity.
Be thankful for your problems.
Life only gives you what you can handle.
Problem solving can be your super power.

 

12. Be an Unflinching Positive person.

Blaming people or circumstances gives them power over you.
It is easy to take responsibility when you are positive.
Being an positive person means you are always on a ‘beast’ mode.
Positive people do not see roadblocks, they see opportunities.
Their energy is electrifying and infectious.
It’s fun to be positive when people around you are losing it, isn’t it?

 

13. Find as many mentors as you can.

Absorb everything they teach you.
Never interrupt them when they are speaking.
You sound like a pompous ass when you say things like “I agree / I already knew it / I did the same thing a few days ago / etc”.
If you don’t know which mentor to speak with, go and read a book.

 

14. Be constantly learning.

As a leaners seek feedbacks
As a learner, expand your skills
As a learner, stay curious and hungry
The ROI on learning keeps compounding and goes beyond infinity.

 

15. Do not disrespect ‘anyone’ ever.

Disrespect reveals arrogance. No one likes it.
People who disrespect others are likely to be disrespected by others.
No one cares how smart, hard working or successful you are if you disrespect them.

 

16. Be fun to be around.

Everyone needs people who are fun.
People who are fun are like a mobile recharge post. They charge you up when one is drained.

 

17. Invest on your support system – your team

Give your team (at home and work) all the time they need.
Be their greatest cheerleader.
TEAM = Together everyone achieves MIRACLES

 

These 17 have been my miracle anchors. I am curious to know what have been YOUR Miracle Anchors?