Ever had a huge argument over a difference of opinion with a friend, family member or a colleague? You were convinced you were absolutely right, and he was convinced he was absolutely right?
It started as an expression of ‘difference of opinion’. The objective was to set the record straight, to fill in right data, to convince the other person. There was no intention to pick up a fight. Yet, it morphed into a fight. It ended ugly. It left a bad taste. Has this ever happened with you?
I wish I had known early in my life the importance of avoiding arguments.
I remembering Dale Carnegie writing, “No one EVER wins an argument”. People leave an argument. They don’t accept defeat. People prefer to drop relationships over accepting defeat.
Haven’t we all seen it happening in real life?
Experience teaches that every minute spent on that argument are minutes not invested on solving the actual problem.
What if you have people who INSIST they are right? Still don’t argue. Acknowledge their point of view. If there is an issue, move on to solve the issue.
As the saying goes, ‘Do not wrestle with a pig in the mud. You can never defeat the pig and the pig really likes it.’
So bury your ego and stay away from the temptation to ‘Win the argument’. What if you are right and they are wrong?
Here is the truth of life as in the courts of law. Being right doesn’t win arguments.
With love, prayers and exceptional wishes,
Imagine, when we wake up, we are given only what we had thanked for.